we full of privileged pain, and the wound shouldn't last so long, but we are all unresolved

and we go back and forth trying to figure it,
but the hurt dissolves if it is pointed at the specific,
even if directed at person (me)...it dissolves because
we know, we know who we are, we constructed this
character out of the materials given, it is an unsympathetic
character, we full aware, so we do not expect acceptance
from certain types-in-deep. but we sometimes give unearned
expectation of intelligence to our audience.

So, when the attack is systemically driven we find it hard
to argue the point of "unlikable self"...and, that is the hurt,
the course for others, but, this, mired in confused ethics on
their end, maybe. but also...but also where is the debate?

.developing a "soft patriarchy" theory.